I echo what Annie said beautifully earlier, Michelle. May 2023 bring the change you want and need. I'll be reading and supporting.

I'm not a therapist, but I would expect one to express initial concerns about working with a couple if both people are not fully invested in the relationship. (Full disclosure: I experienced that. And I appreciated it.) What you describe seems late and somewhat cruel. But I welcome other therapists to set me straight on other ways of seeing it.

All best in the new year.