I'm moved by this, Kasey, in part because I hear so many women echo your words, especially "the power of saying no" and "creating boundaries" and "finding your voice." If this is the experience of so many women, I have to ask myself, am I contributing to that battle, or am I alleviating it?

I think it's an important question to ask because good will is not enough, or it doesn't seem to be enough. I assume my socialization is wrong-headed, so good intentions are insufficient: behavior is necessary.

Thanks for such an honest, transparent piece, as usual.