It's always striking to read someone who is writing your experience in their words. It's thrilling and comforting and a little dislocating all at once. I could have highlighted most of your sentences, Victoria. Thank you for sharing this. It's exactly what I needed to read, at just the right time.
I'm reading a very short book by Pablo d'Ors, The Biography of Silence, that another Medium writer, Harry Readhead, called his favorite, and so far it has not disappointed. It's a little silly to recommend something you're in the midst of, but d'Ors talks about silence in ways that you echo.
All best to you, and thank you again.